Whether you’re feeling the angst of the collective or uncertain about what the future holds, know that you are not alone—I am right there with you. It seems like every time I turn on the news, something shocking or tragic has happened—the fires in LA and the recent American Airlines plane crash, to name just a few. The world is definitely giving us a lot of opportunities to open our hearts and show compassion for what has been unfolding in 2025. But it’s equally important to bring awareness to ways to manage any stress or anxiety you may be feeling in response to these times.

My experience has been that for a few days, around three o’clock, my body would tighten up, and my breathing would shorten. I realized I was having anxiety, but I couldn’t figure out why. Then one day, I realized it was the stress of the collective that’s happening all around me, though not necessarily happening directly to me. However, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t affect me, and it doesn’t mean what is happening in the world right now doesn’t affect you.

I have found the techniques taught by the HeartMath Institute to be highly effective in helping to reduce stress. If you’re not familiar with HeartMath, it is a scientifically based approach that helps manage stress levels and improve emotional well-being. The goal is to achieve heart coherence, where the heart, brain, and nervous system are all working together in harmony.

The HeartMath quick coherence technique is very simple:

  • Sit in a comfortable position and put your hand over your heart.
  • Take slow, deep breaths, breathing in and out while focusing on the heart.
  • Think of something that makes you smile and feel your body begin to relax.
  • Continue until you feel the shift in your nervous system—it happens quickly.

Here is a perfect example: I have white coat syndrome, and when I go to the doctor, my blood pressure goes through the roof. I tell the doctor, “You’re going to have to take it like four times because if you just go on the first try, you’re going to want to send me to the hospital immediately.” So, the last time I went, the nurse said, “Okay, I want you to take some deep breaths, close your eyes, and think of your favorite vacation spot. Really feel it.” I did, and sure enough, the stress I was feeling was gone. When she took my blood pressure, it was normal.

I hope this exercise helps you alleviate any stress or anxiety you may feel at times. Enjoy the month of February, and Happy Valentine’s Day!

In well-being,

Betsy